Letting go. Did you have to give something up to experience the success you have? Most of the direct sales, high-achieving women that share with me have given something up along their success journey. What did you let go of to achieve your success?
The Importance of Letting Go for Your Direct Sales Business Success
Today let’s talk about how to help your leaders through the difficult but sometimes necessary choices of letting go to experience the success they’re working hard for.
Many high-achieving women that share with me have acknowledged that they definitely gave something up along their success journey. Whether it’s seen as a sacrifice or not is up to the person that did the work to give it up. Right?
Sacrifice means to surrender something for the sake of something else. Sacrifice can have a heavy, painful, connotation to it especially if you’re thinking of it from a Biblical sense. The word sacrifice can also simply mean to give something up for the sake of something else.
For our chat today, I’ll refer to “letting go of” and “giving something up” as meaning the same as sacrifice.
Is it Easy or Difficult for High Achieving Women in Direct Sales to Let Go?
I see this letting go or giving something up on a continuum of easy to difficult. On one end, the difficult end, it’s seen as a sacrifice. A difficult and painful choice that can resurface and keep coming up. It’s really hard.
On the other end of the continuum, it just happens organically. It’s not even a choice to let go of something. It’s just what happens when you’re having fun and motivated to keep going, spending time on what’s fun about your business.
Other things that take your time and energy fall off and surprise, they weren’t that important to you or they would have stuck around.
Everything in between easy and difficult is still a choice or a decision. It simply has to be done in order to create space, time, mental energy, and focus. Something has to give.
Top Leaders in Direct Sales Make These Types of Sacrifices
Here’s what other high-achieving women in direct sales have shared with me that they have given up.
Some women have let go of friendships or relationships that didn’t honor or support their personal dreams and goals for their business.
Some have given up alcohol. They weren’t big drinkers to begin with, but they stopped the wine. No judgment here. Right. It just wasn’t serving them any longer. They made different choices for themselves.
Some gave up the tidiness and cleanliness of their home. Adopting an “It can wait” mentality was what they chose in order to spend that time working.
Some gave up t.v. They share, it just kind of hit me, why would I watch others’ reality or journey to success when I could be actively working on my own. Again, no judgment. It was simply a realization others have made for themselves.
I can relate to this one though. T.V. was something I watched while folding laundry, or doing busy work around the house. I would have it on. When we moved from the mainland to Hawaii, I completely stopped watching everything.
I haven’t turned on the television in almost 2 years. My toddler watches a 15 minute show here or there, but other than that we never have it on. Nobody misses it.
It wasn’t intentional for me. But it was the best gift! It was a difficult move and there was a lot to do to get settled. Also, there is so much to do outside here all year round. It truly is a magical place.
Here’s what I noticed. My stress level was way down. I felt happier than I had in some time. I’m a happy, positive person by nature, but this was a different day-to-day level of contentment that I was feeling.
I lost 15 lbs. I honestly think I was just moving that much more by not sitting and watching. Combined with the decrease in stress.
I got so much more done in a day (including with my business). I wasn’t spending really all that much time watching t.v., but I believe it impacted my thoughts, motivation, and therefore my actions.
Maybe you can relate to some of these examples. What did you give up along your success journey? Was it easy or difficult for you? If it felt like a big sacrifice or something you resisted and went back and forth with, you may have more vivid memories of your experience.
If you were simply ready to prioritize your success journey in a new and different way, maybe it didn’t feel like a big, difficult change to make.
I invite you to spend a bit of time thinking back to what your experience was like when you let go of something in order to serve your success journey. It’s important to tap back into your own experience so you can relate to and even share with your leaders.
When you recall the feelings you experienced through your process of sacrificing and letting something go and you share this, it makes it personal for your team.
You become more relatable to your team. Let yourself be vulnerable. Let them make a deeper connection with you. This all builds more trust.
If your leaders and emerging leaders are struggling with consistency in achieving their success, is there something they could let go of to make a difference?
I don’t know. Neither will you, really, unless you pose the question. Many emerging leaders share they need more time. They don’t have enough time to work on their business.
If it is time, the most common challenge, or even something else, pose the question. “Is there something you could let go of to help with this?” Simply see what her response is.
Then share your personal experience in sacrificing and letting go. All of it. What was difficult. What you resisted. And yes, the pay-offs.
Through the Eyes of Direct Sales Leaders on Your Team
But in her eyes, you’ve already arrived. In her eyes, you’re done sacrificing because everything seems easy for you now. You’re at the level she wants to be. You’ve had your success.
Sharing the pay-offs and why sacrificing will benefit her is not as impactful as sharing that it was hard for you too. Sharing how you struggled with the sacrifices, the letting go, the getting rid of something is more meaningful to her when you’re coaching her through it.
And now I have a question for you. Now that we’ve talked about helping your leaders through the importance of letting go, is there something coming up for you that you feel called to let go of? Something not serving you and your continued success?
Here’s your invitation to practice being vulnerable. Share with us. Hop over to Instagram @yourcrazybigdreams and let us know what it is you’re feeling called to set aside and let go of.
You know deep down it will not only enhance your business results, but it will make your personal life better as well.
What is that for you? I promise you’re not the only one. There is another high-achiever in direct sales that feels she could benefit from giving up the same thing! Share with us! Free yourself up, because the best is yet to come, friend! Always!
